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By Beryl Cook

 

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This is a post about friendship and support and I make no apologies for that. It has veered a little away from crafting but is equally as important as it is losely associated with Blogland, which gives women a wonderful amount of support and recognition for their various talents without knowing what personal battles they are undergoing in their private lives.





Yesterday I went to lunch with some girlfriends - there were eight of us. I have known each of them for many years and have a little insight into their personal circumstances..

M. has a husband who is at present undergoing chemotherapy, which although depressing him he has bravely managed to work full time throughout.
K. has a severely disabled daughter whom she has devoted much of her life to while holding down a job and looking after her son and husband.
D. has recently had a breakdown caused in part by her husband being diagnosed with bowel cancer.
R. has three small children and a home and garden to manage and her husband has recently left her.
H. works full time yet spends as much time as possible with her mother who has motor nuerone disease and will probably not last too long.
L. has recently been widowed and is not enjoying living alone.
S. has no children of her own and her stepson recently tried to murder her husband, which has caused much distress for everyone involved.
Me ... as my followers will already know am fighting a battle against cancer.

Now knowing all of the above you would expect our lunch date to be rather a depressing event, which is far from the truth. It was an hilarious occasion and at one point I seriously thought that the person on my right may well wet herself as she was laughing so hysterically. Much of the fun came from a resume of  Fifty Shades Of Grey, which two of the women had read. They thought it was rubbish but it gave us all a really good laugh.

The lunch was delicious, (we all contributed a dish), and I doubt any of us had enjoyed ourselves this much in a long while. We all cared for each others feelings and opinions and genuinely wanted to support each other in our difficulties. It was a great occasion and all these women were all kind and thoughtful and a joy to be with.








Cruel and callous Housewives Of Beverley Hills

When I got home I made myself a cup of tea, picked up my knitting and sat by the fire. I turned the TV on ... and it was an episode of The Real Housewives Of Beverley Hills. They were having a girly lunch date and there where eight of them too. The setting was amazing, the food beautifully prepared by staff, and the designer clothes and jewellery were divine. The women looked beautiful and were all toned and well groomed and pampered. None of them seemed to have a care in the world and each of them has every advantage that money can buy.

Their lunch date was a vile and depressing occasion. They bitched and cruelly destroyed each other with the most upsetting comments. No one laughed. Several were brought to tears. These women were selfish and thoughtless and had no support for each other or interest in making each other feel welcome and loved. Quite the opposite. These women were all horrid, cruel, callous and thoughtless without exception.

The date broke up in chaos with all the women hurting and sad. Each of these women were fighting their own personal battles, too, which will become apparent in future episodes. They also needed loving care and support and got none due to the fact of each of them being full of their own self importance and selfishness.






Pretty on the outside

This got me to thinking about support and friendship in generally. I have found that apart from real friends and  some family, virtual friends in Blogland have been exceptionally kind to me. I have built up some wonderful 'virtual' friendships, and also met with some lovely bloggers who live nearby. Without exception I have been treated kindly and been given support in difficult times. Even the tiniest triump has been met with positive comments and at no time have I been attacked or treated with anything other than polite and friendly communications. My experiences have been uplifting and I have learned so much from very talented bloggers around the world. Please remember that whoever you may meet in whatever circumstances others could also be fighting their own battles.
PLEASE DO BE KIND.

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